Let's be real, when you start a new relationship that develops into a serious relationship, you have no intentions on dealing with your man's ex. But there are times when there will be interactions with the ex and definitely when children are involved.
It would be nice if everyone involved could just be at least civil, right? Right. But we all know that is not always the case. Sometimes the new women are just upset that there is an ex in the picture, sometimes the man may be "the man in the middle" and then you have the bitter women that are simply not over their ex and are looking to wreck his relationship any way they possibly can.
Here are 6 Signs Your Man's Ex Hasn't Let Go and Want to Destroy Your Relationship -
You may recognize one sign or even all:
1. She Pretends to Be Friendly Towards You
Some exes will go to the extreme and "pretend" to be friendly and civil just to simply be nosy. Keeping up with your every move and even your social media posts to gather up information to either use against you or him in order to sabotage your relationship or as a way to simply stay in his life any way she possibly can.
If she has truly moved on, she would not care to know what you two are up to on a daily basis. You can be cordial without her being all up in your personal space and business.
2. She Blames You and Him for Her Parenting Problems When Children are Involved
You two will always be the blame for her having to parent alone, even if she chooses to keep the child from him. Even if he is present in the child's life. She will still blame you for issues of having majority of the weight on her. Nothing he does as a father will be good enough. If she feels the two of you are living "the good life" while she live in misery, she will do every thing in her power to make your lives a living hell. Don't accept the invitation to her misery party.
3. She Talks Bad About You to Others
If she spread lies and rumors about you to your man's family members, to mutual friends and even tries to mess with his mind with her lies, she definitely hasn't let go and is full of toxicity. If you're not careful and don't nip it, this type of behavior can end up destroying your relationship.
How do you put an end to this type of behavior, sis? Honestly, you didn't create this mess, if a man is serious about his relationship & his woman, he will stop her in her tracks.
If his family sees what she is trying to do and they truly care for him, they would not feed into her manipulative spirit and put an end to her contacting them,
4. She Tries to Come on to Him
She's hoping to rekindle an old flame by using her feminine ways on him. She's trying to put him in compromising situations to the point where you start questioning him and may even end the relationship because you simply don't want to deal with the unnecessary drama. Which is what she wants. (You removed completely out of the picture) But it's up to your man to make sure he stays away from her and her tricks even with children involved. Be Wise.
5. She Boldly Disrespects You
Do you experience his ex calling you out of your name, insulting you or refuses to acknowledge you as the woman of his life? Yes, she's completely out of line. As hard as this may seem, but ignoring her ignorance and immature soul is the best reaction. Why? Simply because you shouldn't take anything she has to say personally. This would happen to any woman he chooses to be with.
6. She Lingers Around His Family
Although the relationship is over and may have been over for months, years and even decades (yes, decades), the ex still tries to rekindle relationships with his family. She clings to his family because this makes her feel connected to him. Don't buy into the notion. Why hold on to people that are dear to his heart, this will only cause chaos between them especially when you, the new lady (or even more, you're now his wife) is around.
Again, if a person has truly let go, they are not concerned about the ex, his lady/wife, his family because they are too busy building their own life and has truly moved on.
So, ladies, I hope this bit of information is helpful to you and remember continue being great and you and your man don't give in to the tricks of the ex. Remember, be wise and know that whenever God has something Great in store for you, the enemy will try to do everything in it's power to destroy it. Don't entertain it at all. Stand strong. The best revenge is to put it all in God's hand, keep her out of your relationship and live a happy peaceful life!
"Forget what happened in the past, and do not dwell on events from long ago."
~ Isaiah 43:18 ~
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